The book "Demystifying Teenagers" is all about how to enjoy the process of parenting by understanding your teenager better. Adolescence is a time when growth spurts happen along with hormonal imbalances leading to a confused state of mind. This is the time for friendships and crushes to develop; a time for worries and fears over marks and exams; a time to transform from being dependent to being independent. And a time for parents to be very mindful of their parenting styles.
It is a matter of choice how parents bring up their children. They can ensure that their children are well-accomplished, have a successful career and know how to live in harmony, if they understand their children well.
The book tells you how parents can ensure proper development in all the five areas that are critical to children evolving into healthier dynamic personalities. The five areas are emotional, cognitive, social (including adult life-skills), physical and spiritual (values and beliefs that are in the subconscious and conscious mind).
Successful conversations with teenagers happen only when parents understand how their children think. They should keep the developmental milestones of their children in mind when trying to communicate with them. They should be aware of their cognitive abilities and emotional maturity for better communication.
Parents should offer information in ways that children can understand and strive to have back & forth discussions that allow teens to take ownership of solutions proposed during the discussions.
Know yourself first to know your children better. It gives all parents an opportunity to introspect, without any disputes, within themselves, to recognize their children's uniqueness as well as their problems. If children are born with certain genetic qualities, can they be nurtured to overcome their shortcomings? Yes of course, parenting plays a major role in this. Values and attitudes make all the difference is shaping one's personality and parents are major contributors in this area too.
This book shows the way for parents to be empowered by breaking through their limitations that are governed by their own conditioning and programming, so that new possibilities are created for joyful parenting.
About the Author
Bhuvana Pashupathi calls herself a Relationship Synergist. She is a Soft skills trainer, Author, Certified NLP Master Practitioner, Career counsellor, and Mentor at MiDNA - (Genetic Brain Profiling). Currently she is specializing in the growth and development of adolescent children. Her vision is to reach out to more than one lakh parents and their adolescent children in the next five years, to help them to lead a satisfying and purposeful life.
Bhuvana has touched the lives of about 30,000 children and adult learners in her academic journey of 35 years. She has handled children from the lower kindergarten to the higher secondary level. She has also dealt with young adults at the university level and seniors in adult education programs in three different countries namely India, Malaysia, and Thailand. She believes that educational qualifications are only the first few steps taken towards achieving success in life. There are many more dimensions to life that need to be mastered with proper guidance for true success and happiness.
Passionate about guiding students and helping them choose not only the right career paths but also develop essential life skills, Bhuvana Pashupathi hopes to see Indian youth dominate the world in the years to come. She believes that if students are made aware of the way their minds function (each brain is wired differently) they would be successful in achieving their dreams and ambitions.
As a Relationship Synergist, she conducts parenting workshops, group online sessions, and one-on-one sessions for parents, as well as teenagers. She also mentors and conducts career counselling programs for adolescent children. Her family counselling sessions using the MiDNA brain mapping tool are popular. She can be reached at www.bhuvana.co.in.
Sripriya Balaraman
November 2022
